Men are motormouths!!

After the Gifford Miller incident, FMP and I proceeded to a very artsy, very cool cafe called Cafe des Artistes (I know it had a Cafe and an Artistes, just not sure about the des or pour or whatever in between)! Anyway, as we were chatting about various things, we got to talking about volunteering information.

"You don't tell people things unless you are asked, do you?" I asked her. "I've noticed."

"I know. I don't. I'm really closed," she admitted.

We started talking about how we don't volunteer information about ourselves unless we are asked, and how Caveboy, Rohinton, Nev and Oiram (all boys) talk about what's happening in their lives without being asked, and don't always realise that we expect them to ask us about ourselves, thus leaving us with the impression that they don't care.

"Caveboy is really good about intuiting what I need and asking me," Ficali said. "That makes a big difference."

But, like Nev and Oiram with me, Rohinton expects her to volunteer information, because that's the way he functions. Nothing wrong with that, of course, except that we see them asking as a sign of them caring. Ergo, them not asking is a sign of them not caring.

"Yeah, Nev tells me this is happening, that's happening, blah, blah, blah," I told her. "And I'm on the other end of the phone, seething 'coz he hasn't asked me what's going on with me!"

Ficali understood exactly what I was saying. "We're such losers!" was her pronouncement.

But it really got me thinking. Guys, who are normally supposed to be reticent, are the ones who find it easier to talk without being poked and prodded for information (of course, the four we talked about are BY NO MEANS a representative sample). But still, it seems it's us, the girls, who wait to be asked before we tell. Yet another example of turning stereotypes on their heads?!?!?